thegoldendolphin

The black mark you carry that you think is exclusively your trauma is the same black mark everyone carries of ‘I’m worthless; I don’t deserve love; I can’t forgive myself’.

“You deserve to forgive yourself, and I will stand testimony, as will my healed body, to this fact.”

No one attacks anyone but (thinks) they attack the one self. Forgiving in your brother is forgiving the same pain in yourself – there is no difference. There are no separate people but the idea of separation playing out (as thought processes).

From one level: you’d want your brother to reform, and only self-forgiveness would pave the way for this. Being an example that they deserve that – will help. We only attack because we think we don’t deserve love. Facilitating the opening that one does deserve it will indubitably lead to reform and self-reflection.

“You do deserve love” is synonymous with “you never hurt me”.

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summer nh ’24